You might think of it as frustrating pet behavior problems… but could there be a deeper issue going on?
This last week I got a great question about solving problems with bully cats.
A client told me that her younger cat jumps – and humps – the older cat (both neutered males).
She’s bothered by this, as you might imagine.
It’s bullying of a completely different sort than we dealt with in the Masterclass where the 40 pound Maine Coon was terrorizing and attacking his family, including the elderly, fragile senior kitty.
And the way to solve it is also different.
There are any number of reasons why this can happen.
The list is as long as there are individual viewpoints!
For today, let’s talk about one possibility: the extraordinary phenomenon I call the Human Animal BodyMind Connection.
What is the Human Animal BodyMind Connection, you say?
It’s where an animal mirrors and acts out our feelings, doubts, stresses, and wounds.
They can also carry our dis-ease and illness in their own body, making them very sick and even causing them to die before their time.
They are trying to help us heal, evolve and grow…
And just like a child tries to help his mom by carrying something that’s too heavy for small hands, hearts or shoulders, they still try to help not realizing that it’s not their job, and might even be beyond their ability… it might even hurt them.
But their spirit is willing.
They love you, they want to help, and they do whatever makes sense to them from their viewpoint.
They feel it’s part of their purpose.
It’s the same thing with animals who love and are connected/bonded with you.
So, in this case, my spidey sense tells me that perhaps these 2 bad cats’ human mom has issues around dominance, control, and sex, which they are acting out brilliantly with her as the unwilling audience.
I could be wrong… I’ve not spoken to her about this or worked with her or her cats (yet), so don’t quote me on that as the “truth”.
Just sayin’ it could be a factor and isn’t one most folks are aware of…
If it IS a hidden factor, then when I communicate with the cats, and ask them why they’re doing that, they might respond with something along the lines of…
“We are acting out a wound our mom has suffered hoping she can better see it so she can deal with it and heal.”
When we go deeper, we may find abuse in her background, perhaps from a family member, coworker, or authority figure…
She may have been attacked, or was a victim of crime, or she may have witnessed something like that that she’s had trouble making peace with.
If so, then it’s time to heal so she can move on with her life free from the pain, empowered and strong.
Once Mom communicates she gets the message, takes her power back, and has made the wound conscious so she is aware at a deeper level…
And once she’s thanked the kitties for helping her heal, evolve and grow into her best self.
At that point, the cats can stop acting it out and mirroring it for her… because she won’t need them to do so any longer.
The kitties can go on about their regularly scheduled play time, nap and grooming sessions, and the usual kitty kat chit chat about the birds and food.
Now I’m going to share one of the ways you could come to this conclusion if these were your pets and what to do about it.
Consider how their behavior makes you feel. Are you triggered?
Do you feel very uncomfortable? Angry? Do you want to run away and avoid it entirely?
If your emotional response is anything other than peaceful, calm and neutral, making it difficult for you to take calm, appropriate action to deal with it, then yes, you’ve been triggered.
And yes, you have personal wounds to deal with and heal.
When I do the first step (of five) in my proprietary system for solving problems with pets (I call it The Heart System for Solving Problems with Pets), one of the main things I’m communicating with your pets about is the complexity of the Human Animal BodyMind Connection.
I ask your pets, “How are you connected? What is your Soul contract together? What is your intended purpose in acting this out? Is this your issue or your persons? What do you want to have happen?”
Like with Family Constellation therapy work, and rebalancing the family matrix energetically through the BodyTalk Healing System for Pets and People, these roles and how you serve each other must be known and addressed in order to fully solve the problems together.
So let’s talk about the process. here’s how it works.
First, we have a conversation with the pet to find out WHY they are exhibiting certain behaviors.
Find out what they know that you don’t.
Because here’s the thing about solving problems with pets:
Until we communicate with them, we cannot possibly know what the real truth is from their perspective, and until we know THAT we won’t know how to solve the problem.
If it IS a mirroring issue, you’ll feel a resonance when you start asking yourself (and them) the right questions.
And no, yelling at them to cut it out won’t, well, cut it. (pun intended)
Tell your pet that you understand now. Thank them for helping you with this.
Apologize to them if you’ve hollered at them or been punitive trying to get them to stop.
You weren’t ready to face this then… Now you are.
Tell them that you’re responsible for your own issues and are aware of the deeper problem.
You’ll take it from here, and promise to get the help you need healing.
Word of advice:
It’s best to follow through with that because animals hate it when you don’t keep promises to them.
They could easily decide you didn’t get the message, at which point you’ve got more problems including a broken trust factor to fix. Yikes!
Next, ask them to do something different, more positive, fun, that feels good to all of you.
Make a positive, best case scenario story, focusing on what you do want them to do, that would make you happy(er).
Voila! Their needs are met.
They feel heard, respected, and their GIFT to you is received.
And now everything gets easier.
But… what if it’s NOT a mirrored, acted out scenario for your viewing – and healing – pleasure?
So, if this doesn’t solve the problem, we have to go deeper. We missed something.
Here’s the thing I’ve learned about solving problems with pets in my 30 plus year career doing this work:
Until we communicate with the animal directly, we cannot possibly know what the real truth is from their perspective, and until we know THAT, we won’t know how to solve the problem.
Not everything is about YOU after all.
And sometimes? It is. You are connected.
There’s a lot to learn if you want to communicate clearly and effectively, starting with getting out of your human centered viewpoint.
When I first started solving behavior problems with animals, and teaching students how to do it too, I discovered that they always have very good reasons for their behavior.
Our job is to find out what those reasons are, and to learn how to communicate clearly in a two-way, heart to heart, mind to mind conversation.
Starting with quieting the mind, shifting into your heart, and feeling your love connection.
These are the complex issues that my clients and students work on (and are the kinds of things I help them solve).
The thought processes I’ve described here are the kind that I take my private clients and coach my animal talk students through in The Heart School of Animal Communication courses and in the BEST Online Animal Talk Coaching & Mastery Club’s Live Classes (for Gold and Platinum members).
If you know what you want your animal to do (or not do) but you’re not communicating clearly enough to solve those problems, I help you to really pin it down, mind to mind, heart to heart…
I also help you find what’s in the way from the Human Animal BodyMind Connection perspective, so your pet doesn’t have to keep mirroring you or acting out your stress and imbalances or getting sick with your dis-eases.
Now, you have a choice.
- Option A: Learn how to talk with animals yourself so you can solve your own problems with pets…
- Option B: Hire an expert to sort things out for you 1:1 privately…
- Option C: Get expert coaching in the Animal Talk Coaching & Mastery Club…
- Option D: All of the Above.
Whatever you do, do it sooner than later.
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